We live in an increasingly stressful times with people flaring up at the slightest provocation.When a people are angry all they really want is to vent their feelings on someone, sometimes violently. Unfortunately, this zeal to vent falls on those who are at closest proximity to them.<\/p>\n
The expression of the feeling is the same in Nigeria. Sometimes it is expressed in form of protests with streets blocked and the aggrieved chanting war songs to drive home their points.<\/p>\n
At the ethnic level, the Igbo’s of eastern Nigeria would lock up their shops implying that business is cancelled for the period impressing it on the government that they are not happy without minding the losses during the period of anger.<\/p>\n
For the Yorubas of western Nigeria, business will not be interrupted but they would complain to the appropriate authorities.<\/p>\n
For those who come from northern part of the country, expression of anger is usually violent with loss of lives and property until government’s intervention.<\/p>\n
One great thing to do is to simply listen to the person express their anger until they calm down or wear themselves out. Simply hear them out.<\/p>\n
Do Not Analyse<\/strong> Avoid Apologizing<\/b> Try to Reason with the Person<\/b> Try To Relate<\/b> Protect Yourself<\/b><\/p>\n Keep a safe distance from someone who is angry. It\u2019s a well-known fact that people tend to get physical, threatening and abusive when angry. This is mainly because anger is a largely violent and dangerous emotion. You need to trust your instincts and properly assess the situation. If at any point, you feel threatened or in danger, leave the area immediately without hesitation and without saying anything else to the person (run if you have to, you\u2019re not being coward, you\u2019re being smart.)<\/p>\n —————————————————–<\/p>\n Further Reading:<\/strong><\/em> We live in an increasingly stressful times with people flaring up at the slightest provocation.When a people are angry all they really want is to vent their feelings on someone, sometimes violently. Unfortunately, this zeal to vent falls on those who are at closest proximity to them. The expression of the feeling is the same […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2303,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[371,4,162],"tags":[277,81,274,278,279,280,9,276],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/worldsobright.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2302"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/worldsobright.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/worldsobright.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/worldsobright.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/worldsobright.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2302"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/worldsobright.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2302\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/worldsobright.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2303"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/worldsobright.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2302"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/worldsobright.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2302"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/worldsobright.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2302"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nSome counsellors say you should avoid analyzing all you have listened to and avoid responding at the moment. Don\u2019t worry yourself about if you agree or disagree with all that\u2019s being said. \u00a0For them anger is a largely irrational emotion, therefore your thoughts and feelings about the situation are best kept to yourself when one is angry, especially if you\u2019re the subject of their anger or you\u2019re personally involved.<\/p>\n
\nYou would think apologizing will calm an angry person down but most times it isn\u2019t so. Many times, apologizing aggravates the person\u2019s anger. Most times, a person is angry because they are not able to get their way with you or with a situation. The key to calming an angry person is to either remain quiet (which can be taken for compliance) or gently acknowledging the person\u2019s anger and assuring the person of your compliance.<\/p>\n
\nLater on, when the person is calmer you can address irrational aspect of their outburst and try to reason with them. They are more likely to listen, if they haven\u2019t already realized their own irrationality. If they don\u2019t reason with you and you\u2019re not ready to actually comply, you can opt out of or distance yourself from the situation or person. You can also be patient and give the person time to prove themselves right or wrong.<\/p>\n
\nIt\u2019s okay to question yourself a little. It\u2019s the healthy and humble thing to do. Question your fault in the situation; try to see things from another perspective to confirm the certainty of your views. Be sure you\u2019re on the right track, if you are, then you can either decide to opt out or if you can afford it, give the person time to prove themselves right or wrong. Also, try to relate with the person and understand where the person is coming from. This can help you solve the problem or misunderstanding easily.<\/p>\n
\nMore from Lilian Eze-Mark on how to GRIEVE<\/a> in Nigeria
\nInvestigate the concept of the EVIL EYE<\/a> and the notion of BAD LUCK<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"